I’m Linda Marley, age 72, caregiver. My husband is Ed Marley, age 77, cancer survivor. Ed has been a throat cancer survivor for 18 months, since his last radiation treatment.
We lived in a surreal bubble for his long road back to health. Others confirm that it does, in fact, feel like a bubble existence. We sought a sense of control even when it appeared completely impossible. As Ed started to cope with the knowledge that he was very sick, he completed the monthly living details; for example, taking care of bills and paperwork. He, also, mentally focused on the future; what will it be like to be healthy again? As I started to cope with the knowledge that my husband of 33 years was very sick, I went to the inner castle and prayed, “Please, Lord, let this not be Ed’s time. Please may he be well again. Help us accept Your will.” Each day, I gave Ed many healing hugs along with this prayer. I also made sure that I kept my own health appointments. Then, I made action lists to help us create a plan. Together, we organized treatment information until we felt some sense of knowledge and gained a little stability. We kept our large 3-ring notebook throughout the treatment process and used it at all of his doctor appointments . . .