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Soul-Shared Moments with My Granddaughter

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“There is one primary choice facing every aging sage: Will we become sages, harvesting the spiritual essence of our lives and blessing all future generations? Or will we just grow older, withdrawing, circling the wagons, and waiting for death?”
(The Sage’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for the Second Half of Life, Adapted by William Martin)

Soul-Shared Moments with my Granddaughter
There we were, just the two of us. Amy, a round, chubby five-month-old, on my lap with her tiny little fingers wrapped around each of my index fingers as I playfully bounced her up and down on my knees. As her eyes danced in anticipation of each next bounce, the expression on her face was priceless and the sound of her giggles contagious.

As if time stopped, we came to an exquisite point of stillness. Breathing in the pure Soul joy of the moment, I was awe-struck with wonderment at the infinite love present between us. From my core being to the tips of my toes, fingers, and top of my head, I was witnessing the awesome reality that Heaven truly can be known on Earth; I was in Grandparent Heaven right then and there. Filled with indescribable gratitude for this little loving being on my lap, I began to tell Amy how thankful I was that God had sent her to our family, how blessed I was to be her Grandma, and that I looked forward to celebrating life with her as she began to crawl, talk, walk, go to school, and eventually, become a grown woman.

With her tiny fingers still holding mine, and her eyes inquisitively fixed on mine, Amy listened intently as if her little Soul was taking in every word I said. Blessed by this shared presence, I voiced my deep Soul hope and prayer that, throughout her life span: 1.) her Soul would shine just as brightly as it was in this moment, and 2.) she would know the blessing of deep Soul connections with others. It was then, as an unexpected, delightful image came to mind, that I shared with her that she, too, might be a grandma someday sharing the same Soul joy with her grandchild on her lap.

iStock_000027551754_LargeThis priceless Soul-gift event happened 23 years ago. Amy is, of course, no longer a little, dependent being in the early phase of her unfolding life; she is now a young woman enjoying the early years of her career while establishing herself as an independent being in the world. As for me, I am no longer an overly busy 48-year-old professional woman with young grandbabies who sees herself without limits [least of all age-related ones]; I am now [almost] 72 years old and have come to understand that I do indeed have limitations; my life on this Earth will come to an end; and how I choose to use this remaining phase of life greatly effects not only the quality of my life but that of our whole family, including Amy, her sisters and all future generations in the web-of-life to come. The way to fulfill the awesome privilege and challenge of Aging wisely is not in striving to gain more Ego knowledge, but instead, in being present, consciously listening and resting into the infinite love that my Soul has known all along and re-awakens me to in Soul-shared moments.

The Soul-gift event with Amy reminds me that all babies come into this world bearing heavenly gifts. Because they have not yet built Ego defenses, they exemplify the embodiment of Soul presence. Their Souls speak directly to our Souls. In their presence, our Souls dance freely in the oneness of infinite love that we have known from our beginnings and yearn to live in for forever. May we increasingly be the bearer of heavenly gifts by staying awake to our innate gift to Soul connect not only with our grandchildren but with the Ageless Soul in all of us, young and old.

Today the blessing of being in conversation with Amy continues. As Amy and I discussed in a recent recorded conversation, while we may be on opposite ends of the life cycle, we still can celebrate the blessings of our unfolding Soul-shared lives because the Soul knows no Age barrier.

“In the sage, youth and age are married. Wisdom and folly have each been lived fully.
Innocence and experience now support one another.”
(The Sage’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for the Second Half of Life, Adapted by William Martin)

Amy Purnell

Amy Purnell

Susan & Amy share with one another [and you] some of the ways they have impacted each other over the years; what has helped support their family connections through developmental transitions and changing times; where they are on their perspective life journeys; and what hopes, dreams, fears, and concerns they hold for themselves and our changing world.

Wise Aging: Living with Joy, Resilience, & Spirit, by Rabbi Rachel Cowan & Linda Thal
This book addresses the foundational questions of the process of aging in a comprehensive and practical matter. The authors provide a wealth of tools to support the journey of wise Aging. They explain: “Ultimately, it [i.e., the of journey of wise Aging] is ‘transpersonal,’ reaching beyond the individual and linking him/her to all other selves and to the single Spirit or Self of the universe we call God.” This is a book for anyone who wants to discover what it means to Age Wisely and bless generations to come. Cowan, Rachel; Thal, Linda.
Chicken Soup for the Grandma’s Soul: Stories to Honor and Celebrate the Ageless Love of Grandmothers by Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
Heart-warming and inspirational stories that will stir your memories, touch your Soul, and remind you of the power of what is possible in Soul-shared lives.
The Essential Grandparent: A Guide to Making a Difference, by Dr. Lillian Carson
A how-to, information-packed resource book for grandparents in every imaginable family configuration, dynamic, or circumstance.

“Older or Wiser?”

Growing older either reveals or hides

the mystery of existence.

If you are becoming a sage

you will grow in trust and contentment.

You will discover the light

of life’s deepest truths.

If you are merely growing older,

you will become trapped by fears and frustrations.


You will see only the darkness

of infirmity and death.

The great task of the sage

is learning to see in the darkness

and not be afraid.

There is one primary choice

facing every aging person:

Will we become sages,

harvesting the spiritual essence of our lives

and blessing all future generations?

Or will we just grow older,

withdrawing, circling the wagons, and waiting for the end?

(The Sage’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for the Second Half of Life, Adapted by William Martin)


  1. Darleen Darlene Duffield

    September 3, 2015

    Great newsletter – what a wonderful, precious interview with your granddaughter!!!!


    • Susan A. Purnell


      December 29, 2015

      Thank you Darleen for your words. I know you know the specialness of grandchildren and the joy they are to our Souls. They grow up so very fast.

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