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The Gift of Soul Connection

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Susan Purnell - Soul Alive Women

“It is not the magnitude of our actions, but the amount of love that is put into them that matters.”
~Mother Teresa

As I write this December edition of It’s Soul Time in the busiest time of the year, I recognize that you may not read these words until the Holiday Season has come and gone. I invite you to consider, regardless of when you are reading these words, that when it comes to matters of Soul, every day is a Holiday [i.e., Holy/Sacred/Soul Day]. As Soul Alive Women, we have the privilege and responsibility to practice being Soul present in our Soul-hungry world. This is a Holy/Sacred journey to be lived out daily, not only for the sake of our ‘Inner Peace,’ but in support of Peace being manifested in the World. As always, I welcome your question and comments. Happy Soul Connecting this Holiday Season and beyond.

May you be a carrier of Inner Peace,

  • A HOLIDAY SOUL PRACTICE: Eat Dessert First

Snowflake Cookies - Eat Dessert First

“The soul, like the body, lives by what it feeds on.” ~Josiah Gilbert Holland

During one Christmas in the mid 90’s, when our five grandchildren were still small, our son and daughter-in-law gave our family the gracious gift of a shared future weekend on Catalina Island. And so it was that several months later, our family [the young and the not so young of us] boarded the Catalina Express and were on our way to the small island twenty six miles from our local coast. After our first day exploring the island, we went to a local restaurant for an evening meal. Seated around a large outdoor table, with menus in hand, our friendly waitress announced that when on holiday [vacation], she always makes it a practice to eat dessert first. The adults around the table chuckled, while the grandchildren’s eyes lit up as they smiled from ear to ear. Clearly, the cousins were united in their full-hearted agreement with the waitress’s sense of priorities.

This Holiday Season, I encourage you to make it a Soul Practice to eat dessert first. I caution you however before you are tempted to ‘swallow my words literally,’ ready to gleefully put them into practice, or more likely to dismiss them as foolish and unwise – to consider their meaning metaphorically. The Soul does not speak in literal language; it communicates in metaphors, symbolisms, dreams, poetry, music, art, wholeness, love, relationships, connections, union, meaning, purpose, beauty, creativity, essence, and the eternal now. In order to make it a Soul Practice to eat dessert first, we must hear the Soul’s language in whichever form it speaks.

So, what do I mean to ‘make it a Soul Practice to eat dessert first?’ It is this: make it our priority to intentionally feed our Soul with what it delights in most – our heartfelt desire to know the way of God’s love, wisdom, and peace working in and through us. When we allow this innate desire to have its way with us, Soul Connection happens. We know when it does. Within this union, we often experience a sense of coming home, of oneness with Our Self, God/Source, and Inner Peace. It is only from this space that we can truly connect with another on a Soul level. In Greek, ‘eirene’ means peace, joined in oneness/no separation. In Latin, ‘pax’ means peace, ‘freedom from civil disorder.’ And in Hebrew, ‘shalom’ means peace and is derived from a root denoting wholeness or completeness. When we allow ourselves this loving connection, we taste the true sweetness of which nothing else can compare. When we eat dessert first [the Soul way] we are Soul Centered/Soul Connected/Soul Alive. It is here that we know Our Selves to be blessed and are empowered to be a blessing to others. On this side of life, what could be ‘sweeter’ than this?

  • THIS MONTH’S THEME: The Gift of Soul Connection

Hands Holding Gift - The Gift of Soul Connection“When soul rises into lips, you feel the kiss you have wanted.” ~Rumi

An integral part of the Holidays, [and many other celebrations throughout the year], regardless of the various meanings or purposes we bring to them [be it religious, spiritual or secular] is the act of giving and receiving gifts. Of course every visible/tangible gift that we receive or give carries myriad levels of invisible/intangible meaning to both the receiver and the giver. Sometimes we can name, at least in part, these meanings, but frequently gift exchanges happen with little conscious clarity as to the true essence of what we have given and received on a deep Soul level. I see this as a source of many Soul wounds and untapped blessedness, particularly around the Holidays when Souls tend to be more open and expectations high. I suspect that often people are unconsciously anticipating needed Soul Connections only to be disappointed ‘again.’ Soul Connections matter. Peace in our external world can only happen when the Souls of the world know Inner Peace. May we all increasingly be seekers of Inner Peace.

This year as we give and receive gifts, may we eat dessert first. Let us remember that the Spirit in which we give and receive – be it an exchange of only a few words – affects the transformational power of that exchange on many levels, including the Soul. What is the cost of our not being Soul Connected as we exchange and relate with another? At best, we lose the opportunity to be blessed and thus to be a blessing and a healing presence to another Soul; at worst, we contribute to the deepening of the Soul wounds of another by giving them cause to further validate inner messages, such as ‘you are not valuable or worthy enough to be seen, recognized, loved and honored.’ What is the promise of being intentionally Soul Connected/Soul Alive as we exchange and relate with another? We are blessed with Inner Peace and the possibility of contributing to another Soul’s Inner Peace and the Peace of the World.

  • SYMPTOMS OF INNER PEACE: by Saskia Davis

Candlelight - Symptoms of Inner Peace

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many already have been exposed; and it is possible that people, everywhere, could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what, up to now, has been a fairly stable condition of conflict in the world.


Signs & Symptoms of Inner Peace
  • A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences
  • An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment
  • A loss of interest in judging other people
  • A loss of interest in judging self
  • A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others
  • A loss of interest in conflict
  • A loss of ability to worry
  • Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation
  • Contented feelings of connectedness with others & nature

Read more of Saskia Davis’ Symptoms of Inner Peace & Inner Peace Thrives.
(© 1984) 

  • REFLECTION QUESTIONS: Holiday & Birthday Celebrations (as a child/young adult/later in life)

  • What was your experience of gift giving/receiving/relating?
  • What was the degree of your expectations/disappointments?
  • What patterns do you recognize?
  • In what way do these patterns relate to Soul Connections?

  • CONNECTIONS: Linda Marley

Linda Marley & GrandmaThis is about connection. What happens when you, again, meet your paternal grandmother via a picture on the World Wide Web? For heaven’s sake, she died at 73 in 1956 and now she greets me again!My first thought was: “what a wonderful and ridiculous outfit and a WOW for that day and age! And “such a religious woman in those flaming flowers; not a fit!”Suddenly, I became more serious as I recalled when I was five just how kind and loving she was and all she offered me in that short time we were together. It surely sustained me through delicate times ahead.My point is: in our humility, we may discount our impact on another’s soul. The truth carried forward is that when God’s love shines through each of us, the outcome is profound and of Him who created us. We don’t define it at the time, but we carry the gift forward.

Back to my Nanny, our profound connection lies in three dreams. Yes, she appeared to me right after she died when I was twelve. She died 3,000 miles away, yet the connection was made. The message was exactly the same: “You must live the current existing childhood path. You must get tougher to survive and you must depend on God in order to endure. I used the wisdom and have shared this experience sparingly. It is shared now as testimony of truth in that we all continue to remember kindness and love of the past, present, and future, and that our sharing of same really does matter. We keep on in our journey of discovering the complete self, our God, His love and wisdom, and sharing it all whenever possible. Have a joyful day.

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